What does it mean to “process” an experience?
(original thread) What does it mean to process something? I see versions of this question all the time, and I seldom see anybo
deviants
(original 2018 thread) it’s funny to consider how much of the conversation around things like “what makes you uniq
safety rituals
the meta thing is, this sort of conversation itself will become a safety ritual if you don’t then take some action that
Advanced Stupid
I have a lot to say about this, have been sketching drafts of this over and over, never quite satisfied, so here is a dump of
communication is lossy
It’s amazing that any of us are able to understand each other at all. Communication is lossy. (“Lossy” is a
memed into existence
This page is a collection of instances of the phrase “memed into existence”. I’m collecting them out of nerd
coordination does not require conspiracy
Coordination does not require conspiracy. I think it’s great that the word “conspire” literally means “
dealing with losers
(2020nov5 thread) I’m not a fan of divvying people up arbitrarily into winners and losers – one should never be gleefu
fumbling the bag
There’s an exchange on Tinder(?) that I once saw on Twitter that I think about a lot. Read this really slowly and closel
fuckability
fucking is labor, fuckability is capital many (most?) people wanna be fuckable more than they wanna fuck having good sex is a
Most People
I’ve been sharing this set of notes more and more as time goes by. I suppose you could say most people care too much abo
🗣 hecklers
I’ve been thinking a lot about hecklers lately. There are a bunch of related-ish words, with varying connotations: hater
narcissism
Usually, if you ask someone to imagine a narcissist, the first image that comes to mind is someone enjoying how they look. Som
unlearning coercion
It took me a long time (maybe 10-15 years?) to properly realize that I was in an abusive relationship with myself, where my se
cold emails
If you get really good at cold emails, comms and positioning, you can run circles around people who rely on warm intros in sma
🙏🏾 how to ask for help
One of my new personal rules for myself is, if something annoys me, I’m going to funnel that into content that I can ref
🗿 don’t pedestalize people
I use the term Pedestalization to describe the act of putting someone on a pedestal. Hero worship is pedestalization. Some peo
status and status regulation
dec2023 thoughts: this seems destined to be intertwined in an essay about deviants and greatness. I don’t believe that statu
listen to kids
About once or twice a week I get some long DMs, usually from a younger person, who’s all stressed out and wound tight about
➡️ pay it forward
When I was a broke teenager, my older friends often insisted on paying for drinks or meals. I used to feel a potent mix of gra
💬 practice good reply game
There is an art to replying and commenting, and probably like 60-70% of people I’ve seen on the internet fail at it. The imp
↗️ many people like to contribute to vectors, few like to own them
moved to /marketing/vector
🍵 empty your cup and allow life to surprise you
thread I never really understood the whole “empty your cup” and “unlearn what you have learned” thing until maybe a co
📱 screentime
I had a large amount of screentime as a child. And if I could go back in time and have a do-over, I would have liked even more
👯♀️ make friends
I’ve kind of developed a name for myself as “the friendly guy”. My book is titled FRIENDLY AMBITIOUS NERD. I
👫 relationships are challenging + a lot of work
Preamble: Hello everyone! This post has been getting shared a little bit, so I thought it might be worth taking some time to p
😈 sinister connotations allow people to be assholes with plausible deniability
I like words. It’s a big part of why I’m a writer. I like everything about them. Here are some interesting things
💫 how to bullshit everyone with an inspirational success story
I used a procrastinating underachiever. Then I decided to Follow My Dream and play in a rock band, <s>sell t-shirts<
Politics and the English language [2016]
The following is my attempt to update George Orwell’s essay Politics and the English Language [1946] for modern reading.
👩🏫 schools are powerful, outdated tools of social programming
Why does this post exist? I haven’t been in school in over a decade, but it had a debilitating effect on me and I want t