The ultimate food guide that you probably won’t use

26 foods you should learn to cook in your 20s

Coffee / Green curry / potato salad / pancakes / tuna salad / omelettes with sausage and cheese / keto pizza / western breakfast with bacon and shrooms

Fitness / Health 

How protein becomes muscle:

Pavel Tsatsouline on the Science of Strength and the Art of Physical Performance

Strengtheory – how to deadlift, squat

Pavel on Tim Ferriss 

‘Rubber hand illusion’ reveals how the brain understands the body



How each generation gets the drugs it deserves

My chemical romance – about quitting smoking




Louis C.K. Hates Cell Phones — “Underneath everything… you’re forever empty… that knowledge that it’s all for nothing and you’re alone. […] Life is tremendously sad just by being in it. People are willing to risk taking lives and ruining their own because they don’t want to be alone for a second because it’s so hard. […] You never feel completely sad or completely happy, you’re just feel kinda satisfied with your products and then you die.”

Oliver Sacks: My Periodic Table

Existential Riddles “A man turned off the light and went to bed. Because of this, several people died. Why?” “The man lives in a lighthouse; when he turned off the light, two ships crashed. For months, the man is wracked with guilt — how could he forget to keep the light on? What was he thinking? Years pass. The man moves to a small inland town. He attends group therapy regularly. At one session, he meets a widow of three years. She is beautiful in a quiet way. They get married. She never questions why he refuses to turn off the lights at night. Days become decades. They don’t have children, but they are happy together. One day, the man visits an antique shop and breaks down sobbing when he sees a ship in a bottle. He asks his wife to drive him to the ocean. She does. She knows not to ask why. They arrive. The man forgives himself. He finally forgives himself.”

Life and Donuts, by Pablo Stanley

How to tell a mother her child is dead. – I will show you: If it were my mother you would say, “Mrs. Rosenberg. I have terrible, terrible news. Naomi died today.” You say it out loud until you can say it clearly and loudly. How loudly? Loudly enough. If it takes you fewer than five tries you are rushing it and you will not do it right. You take your time.

A protocol for dying

Suicide notes “These suicide notes were gathered at the coroners’ offices by a suicidologist/psychiatrist who asked to be anonymous. He edited identifying details out of the compiled manuscript, and we changed the names. But the text of each letter plus the age and sex given are real. All these people did kill themselves. Were they ambivalent about it? About half the hundred or so letters we saw seemed to have some element of doubt.”

Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss “I’m constantly aware of lost opportunities. I used to think such lost opportunities were beautiful towns flashing by my train windows, but now I imagine they are lanterns from the past, casting light on what’s ahead.”


The Wedding Toast I’ll Never Give “I only wish I could tell them they will suffer occasionally in this marriage — and not only sitcom-grade squabbles, but possibly even dark-night-of-the-soul despair.”

What romance really means after 10 years of marriage “Because survival is ugly. Survival means sometimes smelling and sounding the wrong way. It’s one thing for a person to buy you flowers, to purchase a nice dinner, to PROVE that they truly, deeply want to have some good sweet-talky time and some touching time alone with you, and maybe they’d like to do that whole routine forever and ever and ever. […] But it’s another thing entirely for another human being to listen to you try to figure out how the day went for your dogs, who cannot speak English or any other language. (“Was it hard, being without Mommy? Yes, I think it was! I think you needed your mommy, but she wasn’t here!”) And it’s another thing entirely when you start to grow an alien in your belly, one that makes you sharp-tongued and menacing, and then one day it finally comes out, all covered in white slime! That is next-level romance right there! And then, suddenly, all you do is talk to the hairless alien and feed it with your own body (a miracle!), bragging about how you make food from thin air like a GOD, and then, once the alien goes to bed, you say JESUS I’M EXHAUSTED and OUCH MY BOOBS HURT and then you pass out in a smelly, unattractive heap. That’s survival! Once you have kids, even in a first-world country, you enter a kind of simulation of third-world living. You’re feeding one kid with your body while your husband crouches on the floor of a dressing room at the mall, wiping excrement off the other kid’s butt. You and your spouse are slogging through the slop of survival together.”

How we end up marrying the wrong people

She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink  “The wife doesn’t want to divorce her husband because he leaves used drinking glasses by the sink. She wants to divorce him because she feels like he doesn’t respect or appreciate her, which suggests he doesn’t love her, and she can’t count on him to be her lifelong partner. She can’t trust him. She can’t be safe with him. Thus, she must leave and find a new situation in which she can feel content and secure.”

The Secret to Love Is Just Kindness

Lasting relationships are about kindness and generosity – The bit about bids is very interesting

Esther Perel – The secret to desire in long-term relationships “So we come to one person, and we basically are asking them to give us what once an entire village used to provide. Give me belonging, give me identity, give me continuity, but give me transcendence and mystery and awe all in one. Give me comfort, give me edge. Give me novelty, give me familiarity. Give me predictability, give me surprise. And we think it’s a given, and toys and lingerie are going to save us with that.”

Esther Perel – What’s wrong with infidelity? “It’s because fidelity is the last thing left that defines a marriage,” she says. “You don’t need to wait to have sex, you don’t need kids. You don’t even need marriage anymore. The only thing that distinguishes it is that, after years of sexual nomadism, you suddenly say ‘I have finally found the one. You are so extraordinary that I am no longer looking for anything else. For you I promise to be suddenly exclusively monogamous’.” The only hitch, says Perel, is that sexual nomadism doesn’t prepare you for exclusivity. “It’s not as though you got it out of your system. Love and desire aren’t the same thing.”

Daily Mail – How the Obamas almost split up – not sure how accurate this stuff is, but it reads quite accurately to me.

Generosity and Kindness

I Wasn’t Treating My Husband Fairly, And It Wasn’t Fair

Quora answers from a divorce lawyer

The Calculus of Divorce

Money / Finance



Lupita Nyong’o and Trevor Noah, and Their Meaningful Roles Trevor Noah: “But you know the irony of #OscarsSoWhite? If you were talking with two white people, they would get to discuss their achievements, their hopes and dreams, maybe a passion project. But we can’t not talk about the Oscars, or we get, “Don’t you care?” But if we do, we get, “Is that all you talk about?” It’s a vicious cycle.”

What It’s Really Like to Work in Hollywood (*If you’re not a straight white man.)

The Two Asian Americas — The New Yorker

‘You look like the help’: the disturbing link between Asian skin color and status. – ” I have graciously thanked strangers for insisting that I have mixed heritage and that I don’t look like the typical Filipino. Given the global disdain for our darker skin and our roles as caregivers, it’s no wonder we find comfort in being mistaken for someone we’re not.”

Atlantic – Letter to my Son, by Ta-Nehisi Coates A black father writes to his 15 year old son.


How I Believe In God, Roger Ebert

Gender / Sex:

Ways of seeing – “A woman is always accompanied, except when quite alone, and perhaps even then, by her own image of herself. While she is walking across a room or weeping at the death of her father, she cannot avoid envisioning herself walking or weeping. From earliest childhood she is taught and persuaded to survey herself continually. She has to survey everything she is and everything she does, because how she appears to others – and particularly how she appears to men – is of crucial importance for what is normally thought of as the success of her life.”

Recommendations from FemalePersuasion: Faludi’s Backlash, @LizzieWurtzel’s Bitch, @naomirwolf’s The Beauty Myth, Eve Ensler

32 types of antifeminists

The Dismal State of Flirting in English-Speaking Cultures

How can you tell if you’re being sexually objectified? It’s about who has the power

The Meaning of Manhood

The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nurturance Culture

Loving Machines — Dorothy Howard “Does sleeping with your laptop make you feel less alone?”

Hipsters broke my gaydar “But since you now all wear carabiners as key chains, we lesbians no longer have any private signals to each other. We’re all screwed, except none of us are, because we can’t find one another anymore.”

Economics of sex

Self-Made Man, Norah Vincent [18:42]

A graphic history of sex “It is difficult to live intimately, because we want perfect love and perfect sex and that is very difficult in a long-term relationship. We want a lot more than a reliable person to raise kids with.”

claudine ko  – american apparel [2004]

Esports Sees Profit in Attracting Female Gamers

Women Are Writing the Best Crime Novels – They don’t seem to believe in heroes as much as their male counterparts, which in some ways makes their storytelling a better fit for the times.

Dominant or Submissive? Paradox of Power in Sexual Relations

Girlboss – is Sophia Amoruso a feminist icon?


Inside the Secretive World of Elite Wealth Management “The secret point of money and power is neither the things that money can buy nor power for power’s sake…but absolute personal freedom, mobility, privacy.”


  • How Children Fail
  • WorryDream – Some Thoughts on Teaching “Real teaching is not about transferring “the material”, as if knowledge were some sort of mass-produced commodity that ships from Amazon. Real teaching is about conveying a way of thinking. How can a teacher convey a way of thinking when he doesn’t genuinely think that way?”



Rest / Unsorted / Unread / To-read

technology The Deployment Age

tech a brief history of tech bullshit

tech How Stockholm became a unicorn factory Volvo, IKEA, H&M, Absolut, Ericsson, King

philosophy existential philosophers & fatherhood

photography Quick intro to photography

eloquent whining Elizabeth Wurtzel on her one-night-stand life, part 2

etymology Etymologists of reddit, what is your favorite story of how a word came to be?

scams / branding The untold story of Napoleon Hill

creative work John Berger: For the artist, drawing is discovery

design How ‘design thinking’ became a buzzword at school

Peter Thiel explains himself

This millenial might be the new Einstein

What do people with office jobs do all day?

AI The Great AI Awakening

Anthony Bourdain AMA – his reading recommendations: The Quiet American, by Graham Greene. The Friends of Eddie Coyle, by George V. Higgins, it’s a great crime book. Joan Didion’s essays or collected Joan Didion is terrific. Patricia Highsmith, The Ripley’s series is great. True Grit! You’ve seen the movie, read the book. It is amazing, it is really amazing writing.

Humint Everything is yours, everything is not yours – powerful story of a woman who escaped genocide

humint – death of a troll

Liminal spaces – places where reality is a little altered

The Price is Right – What advertising does to TV

The Cook and the Chef: Musk’s Secret Sauce — Wait But Why

The Colossal Pile of Jibberish Behind Discovery, and Its Implications for Science Funding — The Crux

Lightbulbs in the middle

What makes an entrepreneurial ecosystem? — Welcome to TheFamily

Play chess against a transparent intelligence

How many lightbulbs does it take to change a person?

Top Hacker News Submissions by Category: 2006–2015 some good reads.  about the various programming languages. check out steve yegge in general, he also has a great post about borderlands 2 and the token economy. and the amazon posts, of course. see also ‘you should write a blog‘.

/lit/ guide to Literature

Drawing tutorials and references

Math concepts intuitively explained at 

links saved on FB:

NY Times – Here-is-what-happens-when-you-cast-lindsay-lohan-in-your-movie.html

Lady Gaga and the Life of Passion “I suppose that people who live with passion start out with an especially intense desire to complete themselves. We are the only animals who are naturally unfinished. We have to bring ourselves to fulfillment, to integration and to coherence.”


Why Is Academic Writing So Needlessly Complex?

how to write for interfaces, by Nicole Fenton

The origin story of Obama’s “Fired Up, Ready to go” chant

The Dark Knight – Creating the Ultimate Antagonist [11:00]


Bret Easton Ellis on Living in the Cult of Likability “No matter how genuine or authentic we think we are, we are still manufacturing a construct.”

Yale senior wins the Individual World Poetry Slam Championship

Celebrity Taylor Swift on People Who Call Her “Calculating”

Your Lifestyle Has Already Been Designed – consumption patterns, working hours, etc.

Lost in the Meritocracy [long/good read]

Time The Disease of Being Busy

Games Simcity that I used to know

TV Tech How “Silicon Valley” Nails Silicon Valley

Corporate Why Do So Many Zippers Say YKK? [Slate] Cool story about the company that makes zippers for pretty much everybody.

Unless You Are Spock, Irrelevant Things Matter in Economic Behavior “”I wanted the exam to sort out the stars, the average Joes and the duds, so it had to be hard and have a wide dispersion of scores. I succeeded in writing such an exam, but when the students got their results they were in an uproar. Their principal complaint was that the average score was only 72 points out of 100. […] Finally, an idea occurred to me. On the next exam, I raised the points available for a perfect score to 137. This exam turned out to be harder than the first. Students got only 70 percent of the answers right but the average numerical score was 96 points. The students were delighted!”

Learning Positive Reinforcement Helps Surgeons Learn “When Levy analyzed two specific behaviors, tying and locking, sliding knot, and making a low-angle drill hole, he found that residents in an operant learning group and a traditional learning group could perform the two tasks at about the same speed. However the students in the operant group were more precise in their movements, and performed the tasks more proficiently.”

Killing over-communication: an internal memo from our founders — The Asana Blog

Adulting When Did You Become an Adult?

Don’t Turn Away From the Art of Life

Internet A Culture Gap the Size of an Ocean, Bridged by Facebook

Internet The Internet has an Oral Culture

Geopolitics 5 maps that explain China’s strategy

Sick of this market-driven world? You should be | George Monbiot

Thinking Disintermediation Theory (And, 5 reasons people complain instead of seeking disintermediation) — Taylor Pearson

Thinking How to become better at smelling and avoiding the many varieties of bullshit

Thinking BetterExplained — Quick Reference Guide

Thinking The Socratic Method How to teach Binary to children.

Thinking Why Do Students Struggle So Much in Math Class?

Thinking Michel Foucault’s concepts

HN – thinking / perception hacks

Corporates The $500 Million Battle Over Disney’s Princesses

Corporates The Pop Analytics ecosystem

How One Woman’s Discovery Shook the Foundations of Geology

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