bookmarks

Disclaimer – I find these reads interesting. I don’t necessarily agree with them.

#Bestof

#Adulthood

Adulting When Did You Become an Adult?

#Aphorisms

#Behavioral Psychology / Economics

#Biographies, Profiles, Interviews

#Biz:

#Book Recommendations

#Careers (for creatives in particular)

#Civilization

#Celebrity:

#Class:

Inside the Secretive World of Elite Wealth Management “The secret point of money and power is neither the things that money can buy nor power for power’s sake…but absolute personal freedom, mobility, privacy.”

#Comedy

#Death

Louis C.K. Hates Cell Phones — “Underneath everything… you’re forever empty… that knowledge that it’s all for nothing and you’re alone. […] Life is tremendously sad just by being in it. People are willing to risk taking lives and ruining their own because they don’t want to be alone for a second because it’s so hard. […] You never feel completely sad or completely happy, you’re just feel kinda satisfied with your products and then you die.”

Oliver Sacks: My Periodic Table

Existential Riddles “A man turned off the light and went to bed. Because of this, several people died. Why?” “The man lives in a lighthouse; when he turned off the light, two ships crashed. For months, the man is wracked with guilt — how could he forget to keep the light on? What was he thinking? Years pass. The man moves to a small inland town. He attends group therapy regularly. At one session, he meets a widow of three years. She is beautiful in a quiet way. They get married. She never questions why he refuses to turn off the lights at night. Days become decades. They don’t have children, but they are happy together. One day, the man visits an antique shop and breaks down sobbing when he sees a ship in a bottle. He asks his wife to drive him to the ocean. She does. She knows not to ask why. They arrive. The man forgives himself. He finally forgives himself.”

Life and Donuts, by Pablo Stanley

How to tell a mother her child is dead. – I will show you: If it were my mother you would say, “Mrs. Rosenberg. I have terrible, terrible news. Naomi died today.” You say it out loud until you can say it clearly and loudly. How loudly? Loudly enough. If it takes you fewer than five tries you are rushing it and you will not do it right. You take your time.

A protocol for dying

Suicide notes “These suicide notes were gathered at the coroners’ offices by a suicidologist/psychiatrist who asked to be anonymous. He edited identifying details out of the compiled manuscript, and we changed the names. But the text of each letter plus the age and sex given are real. All these people did kill themselves. Were they ambivalent about it? About half the hundred or so letters we saw seemed to have some element of doubt.”

Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss “I’m constantly aware of lost opportunities. I used to think such lost opportunities were beautiful towns flashing by my train windows, but now I imagine they are lanterns from the past, casting light on what’s ahead.”

On Mother’s Day, my Mom asked me to help end her life “If I were your mother, would you advise me to do these things?” After a long pause, he replied, “No.”

#Drawing, Photography, Visual Design, Film

#Drugs

#Education

Ego

Food

Cooking

Sugar

 

Deep Nutrition by Catherine Shanahan

New York Pizza

Fitness (personal)

How protein becomes muscle:

Pavel Tsatsouline on the Science of Strength and the Art of Physical Performance

‘Hit the gym’ you’ve heard it a million times, here are 18 Rules on how to build a killer body, drug free. [Long]

Start here – Myosynthesis

https://thinkeatlift.com 

Strengtheory – how to deadlift, squat

Pavel on Tim Ferriss

/r/gainit/ – comments/2ox4tw/from_skinny_to_fit_my_transformation_from_160lb/ 

‘Rubber hand illusion’ reveals how the brain understands the body

Testosterone:

Happiness:

Games

Geopolitics

GTD

Healthcare (systems)

Do No Harm: Stories of Life, Death and Brain Surgery review

How each generation gets the drugs it deserves

My chemical romance – about quitting smoking

#History

Paint-by-numbers history spreadsheet

Revival: The Muslim Response to the Crusades

My grandparents survived the Cultural Revolution: have I inherited their trauma?

The forgotten history of how automakers invented the crime of jaywalking

China – Xi Jinping

Italian history – The Prince, Borgias, Medici

Simon Bolivar, Spanish Colonies

East India Company

Atlantic slave trade

Liberating Iraq “Violence is not a way of getting where you want to go, only more quickly. Its existence changes your destination.

 

Human interest

My father was an abusive sociopath, and I was all he had left

Everything is yours, everything is not yours – powerful story of a woman who escaped genocide

‘We’re the Only Plane in the Sky’ – GWB after 9/11

death of a troll

The $5,000 decision to get rid of my past

philosophy existential philosophers & fatherhood

Never mind the bus pass: punks look back at their wildest days

Cafe Hopping: Four Weekends With My Mother-in-law – a blogpost by Jayne, who used to work in the office next to mine. I love how sincerely and passionately Jayne loves food, and almost anything she writes about it is just delicious to read. Enjoy.

#Identity

Bret Easton Ellis on Living in the Cult of Likability “No matter how genuine or authentic we think we are, we are still manufacturing a construct.”

To Body Mod Away From Brownness And Back

The Queer Poor Aesthetic

#Internet

Insight Porn

Disregard ideas, acquire assets

Wreckage: The culture war

Undercover Economist – Keyhole Surgery

Liminal spaces – places where reality is a little altered

The Cook and the Chef: Musk’s Secret Sauce — Wait But Why

How many lightbulbs does it take to change a person?

Breaking Smart Newsletter: Ambiguity vs Uncertainty – I’ve always liked thinking about how creative work feels different in different contexts and under different constraints. Venkat really explores this well with his classic 2×2 graphs, distinguishing between ambiguity (do I know what I’m looking at?) and uncertainty (is there a clear answer?). Play happens when things are the right amount of ambiguous and the right amount of uncertain. Too much or too little of either and it gets boring, frustrating, etc.

#Language

etymology Etymologists of reddit, what is your favorite story of how a word came to be?

The strange persistence of first languages

Learning Arabic from Egypt’s Revolution

#Lists

Top Hacker News Submissions by Category: 2006–2015 some good reads.

#Mindfulness, Mindset, Mind, Cognition

#Management (Organizations)

#Marriage

  • The Wedding Toast I’ll Never Give “I only wish I could tell them they will suffer occasionally in this marriage — and not only sitcom-grade squabbles, but possibly even dark-night-of-the-soul despair.”
  • What romance really means after 10 years of marriage “Because survival is ugly. Survival means sometimes smelling and sounding the wrong way. It’s one thing for a person to buy you flowers, to purchase a nice dinner, to PROVE that they truly, deeply want to have some good sweet-talky time and some touching time alone with you, and maybe they’d like to do that whole routine forever and ever and ever. […] Once you have kids, even in a first-world country, you enter a kind of simulation of third-world living. You’re feeding one kid with your body while your husband crouches on the floor of a dressing room at the mall, wiping excrement off the other kid’s butt. You and your spouse are slogging through the slop of survival together.”
  • How we end up marrying the wrong people
  • She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink  “The wife doesn’t want to divorce her husband because he leaves used drinking glasses by the sink. She wants to divorce him because she feels like he doesn’t respect or appreciate her, which suggests he doesn’t love her, and she can’t count on him to be her lifelong partner. She can’t trust him. She can’t be safe with him. Thus, she must leave and find a new situation in which she can feel content and secure.”
  • The Secret to Love Is Just Kindness
  • Lasting relationships are about kindness and generosity – The bit about bids is very interesting
  • Esther Perel – The secret to desire in long-term relationships “So we come to one person, and we basically are asking them to give us what once an entire village used to provide. Give me belonging, give me identity, give me continuity, but give me transcendence and mystery and awe all in one. Give me comfort, give me edge. Give me novelty, give me familiarity. Give me predictability, give me surprise. And we think it’s a given, and toys and lingerie are going to save us with that.”
  • Esther Perel – What’s wrong with infidelity? “It’s because fidelity is the last thing left that defines a marriage,” she says. “You don’t need to wait to have sex, you don’t need kids. You don’t even need marriage anymore. The only thing that distinguishes it is that, after years of sexual nomadism, you suddenly say ‘I have finally found the one. You are so extraordinary that I am no longer looking for anything else. For you I promise to be suddenly exclusively monogamous’.” The only hitch, says Perel, is that sexual nomadism doesn’t prepare you for exclusivity. “It’s not as though you got it out of your system. Love and desire aren’t the same thing.”
  • Daily Mail – How the Obamas almost split up – not sure how accurate this stuff is, but it reads quite accurately to me.
  • I Wasn’t Treating My Husband Fairly, And It Wasn’t Fair
  • Quora answers from a divorce lawyer
  • The Calculus of Divorce
  • How Much Ambition Can a Marriage Sustain?
  • The globalization of marriage markets

Media

Motivation (moving forward)

Lady Gaga and the Life of Passion “I suppose that people who live with passion start out with an especially intense desire to complete themselves. We are the only animals who are naturally unfinished. We have to bring ourselves to fulfillment, to integration and to coherence.”

#Money / Finance / $$$$

Music

Race

Religion

How I Believe In God, Roger Ebert

Science

Entropy explained, with sheep

The Colossal Pile of Jibberish Behind Discovery, and Its Implications for Science Funding — The Crux

Math concepts intuitively explained at http://betterexplained.com

How One Woman’s Discovery Shook the Foundations of Geology

The DIY Scientist, the Olympian, and the Mutated Gene

#Sex, #Gender:

What’s a girl worth?

Ways of seeing – “A woman is always accompanied, except when quite alone, and perhaps even then, by her own image of herself. While she is walking across a room or weeping at the death of her father, she cannot avoid envisioning herself walking or weeping. From earliest childhood she is taught and persuaded to survey herself continually. She has to survey everything she is and everything she does, because how she appears to others – and particularly how she appears to men – is of crucial importance for what is normally thought of as the success of her life.”

BBC: China bans ‘erotic’ banana-eating live streams I found this piece of news really entertaining. Basically young girls are eating bananas erotically for horny men to jerk off to, and presumably they must be getting good money for it.

Life of a call girl: Fantasy vs Reality

Deep Inside: A study of 10,000 porn stars and their careers

The foul reign of the biological clock It seems like the concept of the biological clock has been with us forever. In fact, the metaphor was invented in the late 1970s. And it has been used to reinforce sexist ideas ever since

The Fierce Triumph of Loneliness “In pop culture we have “the bachelor pad,” and “the bachelor lifestyle,” but no such phrases for women.”

What does it mean when we call women girls? “When you become a woman is when people come out of your vagina and step on your dreams.”

I Get So Annoyed When ‘Cool’ Young Women Say They Are Not Feminists: Arundhati Roy

Bottom-Of-The-Barrel Cuckold Fetishist, Or Spinster Hoax? As I write this, my children are asleep in their room, Loretta Lynn is on the stereo, and my wife is out on a date with a man named Paulo. It’s her second date this week; her fourth this month so far. If it goes like the others, she’ll come home in the middle of the night, crawl into bed beside me, and tell me all about how she and Paulo had sex. I won’t explode with anger or seethe with resentment. I’ll tell her it’s a hot story and I’m glad she had fun. It’s hot because she’s excited, and I’m glad because I’m a feminist.

Recommendations from FemalePersuasion: Faludi’s Backlash, @LizzieWurtzel’s Bitch, @naomirwolf’s The Beauty Myth, Eve Ensler

Someone stole naked pictures of me. This is what I did about it – video

“Hypergamy”

/r/seduction FAQ, 2

32 types of antifeminists

The Dismal State of Flirting in English-Speaking Cultures

How can you tell if you’re being sexually objectified? It’s about who has the power

The Meaning of Manhood

The Opposite of Rape Culture is Nurturance Culture

Loving Machines — Dorothy Howard “Does sleeping with your laptop make you feel less alone?”

Hipsters broke my gaydar “But since you now all wear carabiners as key chains, we lesbians no longer have any private signals to each other. We’re all screwed, except none of us are, because we can’t find one another anymore.”

Economics of sex

Self-Made Man, Norah Vincent [18:42]

A graphic history of sex “It is difficult to live intimately, because we want perfect love and perfect sex and that is very difficult in a long-term relationship. We want a lot more than a reliable person to raise kids with.”

claudine ko  – american apparel [2004]

Esports Sees Profit in Attracting Female Gamers

Women Are Writing the Best Crime Novels – They don’t seem to believe in heroes as much as their male counterparts, which in some ways makes their storytelling a better fit for the times.

Dominant or Submissive? Paradox of Power in Sexual Relations

Girlboss – is Sophia Amoruso a feminist icon?

Singapore

$trategic KPI + %Synergy% = Love by Mary-Jane Leo. Published in Ceriph 4, available at BooksActually, Kinokuniya, and GRAPHEME zine lab.

Journalism and Jiu Jitsu

Donald Low, on Jo Tay’s #SexInSmallSpaces

George Yeo: A Sense of Self in an Age of Globalization

/r/singapore – A Rant on National Service from an NSF – some good stories from an NSF in the Singapore Civil Defence Force, talking about the difficult life-and-death cases they have to deal with.

Peeling away Singapore’s class layers

Vimeo The Lion City II – Majulah [04:42] – a beautiful video of the Singapore cityscape.

Straits Times: Singapore has picked the wrong target in its balance of powers strategy: Global Times commentary – An interesting opinion piece about the future of Singapore’s foreign policy amidst big picture changes – what will happen to us as China becomes more influential in the region? I’m not sure if the author is correct, but it’s worth thinking and talking about.

IPS-Nathan Lectures: Dealing with An Ambiguous World: Can Singapore Cope? A comprehensive lecture by Bilahari Kausikan, talking about the historical and global contexts that Singapore is a part of, and the challenges we’re going to face as a Nation-State moving forward. There are some interesting hints and insights in here– particularly about how other countries think about Singapore.

#Startups

#Technology

What is a keyboard shortcut that everyone must know?

Raspberry Pi: How To Get Started (Not Food)

50 Mind-Blowing Implications of Self-Driving Cars (and Trucks)

Marc Andreessen on the future of Enterprise

TED – Kevin Kelly, How Technology Evolves [20:00]

Benedict Evans – Office, messaging and verbs

technology The Deployment Age

tech a brief history of tech bullshit

Ben Thompson – Slack and the state of technology at the end of 2015

The American Cloud

Peter Thiel explains himself

TV Tech How “Silicon Valley” Nails Silicon Valley

https://sites.google.com/site/steveyegge2/tour-de-babel  about the various programming languages. check out steve yegge in general, he also has a great post about borderlands 2 and the token economy. and the amazon posts, of course. see also ‘you should write a blog‘.

AI The Great AI Awakening

#Thinking

#Time (the nature of)

Time The Disease of Being Busy

Why time management is ruining our lives

Pendulum [3:04]

#Peopling

Politics

The Smug Style Of American Liberalism

Programming

Marketing

#War

  • Chickenhawk Nation – The Tragedy of the American Military – “We love our troops but we’d rather not think about them”. “If I were writing such a history now, I would call it Chickenhawk Nation, based on the derisive term for those eager to go to war, as long as someone else is going. It would be the story of a country willing to do anything for its military except take it seriously.”
  • Army Deploys Old Tactic in PR War – body counts – can victory be measured by counting the enemy dead?

#Writing

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