- Remember – Wanderweird
- @buster’s cognitive bias cheat sheet (bit.ly/thinking-is-hard/) – TMI, not enough meaning, not enough time&resources, not enough memory
- Tact filters “So, nerds need to understand that normal people have to apply tact to everything they say; they become really uncomfortable if they can’t do this. Normal people need to understand that despite the fact that nerds are usually tactless, things they say are almost never meant personally and shouldn’t be taken that way. Both types of people need to be extra patient when dealing with someone whose tact filter is backwards relative to their own.”
- Ra “When you give your opinion, it sounds like you think you’re smart.” / “I’ve spent a lot of time feeling ashamed of ‘thinking out loud’ in public”.
- Disintermediation Theory
- Access Denied, on the future of media post-disintermediated by social media
- The Gervais Principle
- The Toxoplasma of Rage
- Developing ethical, social, and cognitive competence
- Melting Asphalt – Ads Don’t Work That Way
- Everything Is A Remix [48:41]
- The Information: Adam Gopnik essay about how people are affected by information and media over time All-time favorite
- The Secret Lives Of Tumblr Teens – fantastic essay about what it’s like to grow up on Tumblr.
- Jon Kabat-Zinn: Coming to our senses [57:20]
- People are violent because their morality demands it — Tage Rai — AeonAt the same time, if violence is motivated by moral sentiments, what is it motivated toward? What are these perpetrators trying to achieve? The general pattern we found was that the violence was intended to regulate social relationships. [..] Across all cases, perpetrators are using violence to create, conduct, sustain, enhance, transform, honour, protect, redress, repair, end, and mourn valued relationships. [..] Individuals and cultures certainly vary in the ways they do this and the contexts in which they think violence is an acceptable means of making things right, but the goal is the same. The purpose of violence is to sustain a moral order.
- The righteous mind “If you think that moral reasoning is something we do to figure out the truth, you’ll be constantly frustrated by how foolish, biased, and illogical people become when they disagree with you. But if you think about moral reasoning as a skill we humans evolved to further our social agendas—to justify our own actions and to defend the teams we belong to—then things will make a lot more sense. Keep your eye on the intuitions, and don’t take people’s moral arguments at face value. They’re mostly post hoc constructions made up on the fly, crafted to advance one or more strategic objectives.”
- WBW – The Cook and the Chef (Musk)
- Emotional Labor, the MetaFilter thread
- A millennial and a baby boomer trade places
- LessWrong – Ugh Fields – the psychology of why we avoid things that we know we shouldn’t be avoiding
- Why is it hard to scale a database, in layman’s terms? – a very accessible way to thinking about the problems of scaling
- Parable of the Polygons – about racism and migration
- SMBC — ”Each group is some percent crazy assholes.”
- What makes an entrepreneurial ecosystem? — Welcome to TheFamily
- Facebook – Dan Majesky talks about his and his wife’s experiences with miscarriage and trying to conceive. Heartfelt. Honest. Really good read. Makes me want to share more of myself with others, if and when it can be of service.
- Medium: Find a Better Way – a really moving, rousing commencement speech by Jeff Huber, a Googler who lost his wife to cancer.
- A Stranger at the Family Table — The New Yorker Tash Aw
- What’s it like to teach 1984 in 2016
- Mosquitos and Automobiles Are The Worst Terrorists
- The Voyeur’s Motel
Russell Brand: my life without drugs “I still survey streets for signs of the subterranean escapes that used to provide my sanctuary. I still eye the shuffling subclass of junkies and dealers, invisibly gliding between doorways through the gutters. I see that dereliction can survive in opulence; the abundantly wealthy with destitution in their stare.”
- history of japan [9:00]
- Deceit And I [3:26]
- Steve Jobs on “Think Different” – Internal Meeting Sept. 23, 1997 [16:01]
- Book Review: Why We Get Fat, By Gary Taubes | Summer Tomato
- The truth about fat and sugar is finally explained – Men’s Health
- Food companies should stop fighting the obvious: Sugar is ruining our health
- How sugar affects the brain — Nicole Avena
- How Giving Up Refined Sugar Changed My Brain
- A month without sugar
- How the sugar industry shifted the glame to fat
- Is sugar the world’s most popular drug?
- Carbohydrates and glucose, 1964 tv show [0:34]
- The Mediterranean Diet: Is it the Food or the Lifestyle?
- An internal crisis – the changing place of offal – why liver, kidneys etc aren’t as popular as muscle cuts
Fitness / Health
Strengtheory – how to deadlift, squat
Pavel on Tim Ferriss
- Body Endocrine System, part 1 — Glands & Hormones: Crash Course A&P #23
- Adrenal Glands and Feeling Lethargic: Why You Are Experiencing Fatigue Symp
- How Sleep Deprivation Decays the Mind and Body – The Atlantic
- ELI5: what exactly happens to your brain when you feel mentally exhausted?
- How to increase testosterone naturally
- TRP guide for increasing testosterone
- Naturally increase testosterone levels
My chemical romance – about quitting smoking
Louis C.K. Hates Cell Phones — “Underneath everything… you’re forever empty… that knowledge that it’s all for nothing and you’re alone. […] Life is tremendously sad just by being in it. People are willing to risk taking lives and ruining their own because they don’t want to be alone for a second because it’s so hard. […] You never feel completely sad or completely happy, you’re just feel kinda satisfied with your products and then you die.”
Existential Riddles “A man turned off the light and went to bed. Because of this, several people died. Why?” “The man lives in a lighthouse; when he turned off the light, two ships crashed. For months, the man is wracked with guilt — how could he forget to keep the light on? What was he thinking? Years pass. The man moves to a small inland town. He attends group therapy regularly. At one session, he meets a widow of three years. She is beautiful in a quiet way. They get married. She never questions why he refuses to turn off the lights at night. Days become decades. They don’t have children, but they are happy together. One day, the man visits an antique shop and breaks down sobbing when he sees a ship in a bottle. He asks his wife to drive him to the ocean. She does. She knows not to ask why. They arrive. The man forgives himself. He finally forgives himself.”
How to tell a mother her child is dead. – I will show you: If it were my mother you would say, “Mrs. Rosenberg. I have terrible, terrible news. Naomi died today.” You say it out loud until you can say it clearly and loudly. How loudly? Loudly enough. If it takes you fewer than five tries you are rushing it and you will not do it right. You take your time.
Suicide notes “These suicide notes were gathered at the coroners’ offices by a suicidologist/psychiatrist who asked to be anonymous. He edited identifying details out of the compiled manuscript, and we changed the names. But the text of each letter plus the age and sex given are real. All these people did kill themselves. Were they ambivalent about it? About half the hundred or so letters we saw seemed to have some element of doubt.”
Learning to Measure Time in Love and Loss “I’m constantly aware of lost opportunities. I used to think such lost opportunities were beautiful towns flashing by my train windows, but now I imagine they are lanterns from the past, casting light on what’s ahead.”
The Wedding Toast I’ll Never Give “I only wish I could tell them they will suffer occasionally in this marriage — and not only sitcom-grade squabbles, but possibly even dark-night-of-the-soul despair.”
What romance really means after 10 years of marriage “Because survival is ugly. Survival means sometimes smelling and sounding the wrong way. It’s one thing for a person to buy you flowers, to purchase a nice dinner, to PROVE that they truly, deeply want to have some good sweet-talky time and some touching time alone with you, and maybe they’d like to do that whole routine forever and ever and ever. […] But it’s another thing entirely for another human being to listen to you try to figure out how the day went for your dogs, who cannot speak English or any other language. (“Was it hard, being without Mommy? Yes, I think it was! I think you needed your mommy, but she wasn’t here!”) And it’s another thing entirely when you start to grow an alien in your belly, one that makes you sharp-tongued and menacing, and then one day it finally comes out, all covered in white slime! That is next-level romance right there! And then, suddenly, all you do is talk to the hairless alien and feed it with your own body (a miracle!), bragging about how you make food from thin air like a GOD, and then, once the alien goes to bed, you say JESUS I’M EXHAUSTED and OUCH MY BOOBS HURT and then you pass out in a smelly, unattractive heap. That’s survival! Once you have kids, even in a first-world country, you enter a kind of simulation of third-world living. You’re feeding one kid with your body while your husband crouches on the floor of a dressing room at the mall, wiping excrement off the other kid’s butt. You and your spouse are slogging through the slop of survival together.”
She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink “The wife doesn’t want to divorce her husband because he leaves used drinking glasses by the sink. She wants to divorce him because she feels like he doesn’t respect or appreciate her, which suggests he doesn’t love her, and she can’t count on him to be her lifelong partner. She can’t trust him. She can’t be safe with him. Thus, she must leave and find a new situation in which she can feel content and secure.”
Lasting relationships are about kindness and generosity – The bit about bids is very interesting
Esther Perel – The secret to desire in long-term relationships “So we come to one person, and we basically are asking them to give us what once an entire village used to provide. Give me belonging, give me identity, give me continuity, but give me transcendence and mystery and awe all in one. Give me comfort, give me edge. Give me novelty, give me familiarity. Give me predictability, give me surprise. And we think it’s a given, and toys and lingerie are going to save us with that.”
Esther Perel – What’s wrong with infidelity? “It’s because fidelity is the last thing left that defines a marriage,” she says. “You don’t need to wait to have sex, you don’t need kids. You don’t even need marriage anymore. The only thing that distinguishes it is that, after years of sexual nomadism, you suddenly say ‘I have finally found the one. You are so extraordinary that I am no longer looking for anything else. For you I promise to be suddenly exclusively monogamous’.” The only hitch, says Perel, is that sexual nomadism doesn’t prepare you for exclusivity. “It’s not as though you got it out of your system. Love and desire aren’t the same thing.”
Daily Mail – How the Obamas almost split up – not sure how accurate this stuff is, but it reads quite accurately to me.
Generosity and Kindness
- Can someone explain why McDonalds stock is only $99.56, and Chipotle’s is $
- a1988eli comments on What do insanely wealthy people buy, that ordinary peo
- How Should You Manage Your Money? And Keep It Short – The New York Times
- Money Helicopter money
- Learn The Guitar Fingerboard Thoroughly in 16 Days – StumbleUpon
- Guitar Lessons : Steve Vai’s 30 Hour Workout – 30 hour path to virtuoso enl
- “How to Write Chord Progressions in Every Key: The Quick and Easy Equation.
- Music How SimCity made me fall in love with Jazz
Lupita Nyong’o and Trevor Noah, and Their Meaningful Roles Trevor Noah: “But you know the irony of #OscarsSoWhite? If you were talking with two white people, they would get to discuss their achievements, their hopes and dreams, maybe a passion project. But we can’t not talk about the Oscars, or we get, “Don’t you care?” But if we do, we get, “Is that all you talk about?” It’s a vicious cycle.”
‘You look like the help’: the disturbing link between Asian skin color and status. – ” I have graciously thanked strangers for insisting that I have mixed heritage and that I don’t look like the typical Filipino. Given the global disdain for our darker skin and our roles as caregivers, it’s no wonder we find comfort in being mistaken for someone we’re not.”
Atlantic – Letter to my Son, by Ta-Nehisi Coates A black father writes to his 15 year old son.
Gender / Sex:
Ways of seeing – “A woman is always accompanied, except when quite alone, and perhaps even then, by her own image of herself. While she is walking across a room or weeping at the death of her father, she cannot avoid envisioning herself walking or weeping. From earliest childhood she is taught and persuaded to survey herself continually. She has to survey everything she is and everything she does, because how she appears to others – and particularly how she appears to men – is of crucial importance for what is normally thought of as the success of her life.”
Recommendations from FemalePersuasion: Faludi’s Backlash, @LizzieWurtzel’s Bitch, @naomirwolf’s The Beauty Myth, Eve Ensler
Loving Machines — Dorothy Howard “Does sleeping with your laptop make you feel less alone?”
Hipsters broke my gaydar “But since you now all wear carabiners as key chains, we lesbians no longer have any private signals to each other. We’re all screwed, except none of us are, because we can’t find one another anymore.”
Economics of sex
Self-Made Man, Norah Vincent [18:42]
A graphic history of sex “It is difficult to live intimately, because we want perfect love and perfect sex and that is very difficult in a long-term relationship. We want a lot more than a reliable person to raise kids with.”
Inside the Secretive World of Elite Wealth Management “The secret point of money and power is neither the things that money can buy nor power for power’s sake…but absolute personal freedom, mobility, privacy.”
- How Children Fail
- WorryDream – Some Thoughts on Teaching “Real teaching is not about transferring “the material”, as if knowledge were some sort of mass-produced commodity that ships from Amazon. Real teaching is about conveying a way of thinking. How can a teacher convey a way of thinking when he doesn’t genuinely think that way?”
- A Stranger at the Family Table — The New Yorker Tash Aw
- What Emotions Are (and Aren’t) (NYT)
- Human Emotion: The One Thing the Internet Can’t Buy
- SMBC — ”Each group is some percent crazy assholes.”
- Persuasion – first tell people how they are right
- How I Design My Day To Maximize Mental Energy — Brian Balfour’s Coelevate
- GTD as algorithm – Getting Things Done Forums
- 10 GTD “holes” (and how to plug them) – The Experiment-Driven Life Blog – M
- Michael Whatcott – GTD: Mastering Workflow – Processing (as an algorithm) –
- Alternatives to GTD? (Malcolm Ocean)
- Final Version (Mark Foster)
Rest / Unsorted / Unread / To-read
technology The Deployment Age
tech How Stockholm became a unicorn factory Volvo, IKEA, H&M, Absolut, Ericsson, King
philosophy existential philosophers & fatherhood
photography Quick intro to photography
scams / branding The untold story of Napoleon Hill
creative work John Berger: For the artist, drawing is discovery
Anthony Bourdain AMA – his reading recommendations: The Quiet American, by Graham Greene. The Friends of Eddie Coyle, by George V. Higgins, it’s a great crime book. Joan Didion’s essays or collected Joan Didion is terrific. Patricia Highsmith, The Ripley’s series is great. True Grit! You’ve seen the movie, read the book. It is amazing, it is really amazing writing.
Humint Everything is yours, everything is not yours – powerful story of a woman who escaped genocide
humint – death of a troll
Liminal spaces – places where reality is a little altered
The Price is Right – What advertising does to TV
Top Hacker News Submissions by Category: 2006–2015 some good reads.
https://sites.google.com/site/steveyegge2/tour-de-babel about the various programming languages. check out steve yegge in general, he also has a great post about borderlands 2 and the token economy. and the amazon posts, of course. see also ‘you should write a blog‘.
/lit/ guide to Literature http://imgur.com/gallery/U4OHY
Drawing tutorials and references http://imgur.com/gallery/yKd0Y
“The ultimate food guide that you probably won’t use” http://imgur.com/gallery/QniPN
Math concepts intuitively explained at http://betterexplained.com
links saved on FB:
Lady Gaga and the Life of Passion “I suppose that people who live with passion start out with an especially intense desire to complete themselves. We are the only animals who are naturally unfinished. We have to bring ourselves to fulfillment, to integration and to coherence.”
Bret Easton Ellis on Living in the Cult of Likability “No matter how genuine or authentic we think we are, we are still manufacturing a construct.”
Your Lifestyle Has Already Been Designed – consumption patterns, working hours, etc.
Lost in the Meritocracy [long/good read]
Corporate Why Do So Many Zippers Say YKK? [Slate] Cool story about the company that makes zippers for pretty much everybody.
Unless You Are Spock, Irrelevant Things Matter in Economic Behavior “”I wanted the exam to sort out the stars, the average Joes and the duds, so it had to be hard and have a wide dispersion of scores. I succeeded in writing such an exam, but when the students got their results they were in an uproar. Their principal complaint was that the average score was only 72 points out of 100. […] Finally, an idea occurred to me. On the next exam, I raised the points available for a perfect score to 137. This exam turned out to be harder than the first. Students got only 70 percent of the answers right but the average numerical score was 96 points. The students were delighted!”
Learning Positive Reinforcement Helps Surgeons Learn “When Levy analyzed two specific behaviors, tying and locking, sliding knot, and making a low-angle drill hole, he found that residents in an operant learning group and a traditional learning group could perform the two tasks at about the same speed. However the students in the operant group were more precise in their movements, and performed the tasks more proficiently.”
Adulting When Did You Become an Adult?
Internet The Internet has an Oral Culture
Geopolitics 5 maps that explain China’s strategy
Thinking The Socratic Method How to teach Binary to children.
Thinking Michel Foucault’s concepts
Corporates The Pop Analytics ecosystem