Start by realizing and accepting that it’s okay not to “know yourself.”

Knowing yourself is a process and a journey, not an achievement to unlock.

Take baby steps every day. Every day, do one little thing that gets you closer towards something you like- or if you don’t know what you like, then one step away from what you DON’T like.

Write it down. “Today, I did x. It felt good.” “Today, I did y. It didn’t feel good.”

After a while you’ll notice certain patterns emerging. I notice that I get miserable when I’m sleep deprived, and that I’m more productive when I’ve been working out, and that I enjoy good books and good conversation. And live music. And dehydration is the devil.

Through trial and error, I’ve come to realize that writing is my gig. But I had to try a whole bunch of other things before I figured that out. Music. Drawing. Basketball. Running. I learnt that I like doing stand-up comedy, I want to be a better public speaker, and that I need to be an entrepreneur to live well on my own terms.

Do stuff. Some of it will feel good, some of it won’t. Discard what doesn’t work. Try variations of what does. Occasionally try something completely random and unrelated. Over time, you’ll develop a sense of what you’re about.

What gets measured, gets managed.

So measure! Reflect, meditate, think.

But don’t worry so much. If you grasp nothing else:

“Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here?”
“That depends a good deal on where you want to get to,” said the Cat.
“I don’t much care where–” said Alice.
“Then it doesn’t matter which way you go,” said the Cat.
“–so long as I get SOMEWHERE,” Alice added as an explanation.
“Oh, you’re sure to do that,” said the Cat, “if you only walk long enough.”