{"id":14895,"date":"2022-01-30T06:32:58","date_gmt":"2022-01-29T22:32:58","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/?p=14895"},"modified":"2025-01-14T00:14:21","modified_gmt":"2025-01-13T16:14:21","slug":"self-worth","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/self-worth\/","title":{"rendered":"self-worth"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

this is one of those things where someone is trying to make you feel good with comforting noises, which is honestly sweet \u2013 but if you\u2019re a thinking person and you investigate this a little closer, there are a lot of followup questions. What IS self-worth even? (original thread<\/a>)<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If self-worth is worth that you give yourself, why not simply decide that you\u2019re worth a lot? \u201cI hereby decide that I have an abundance of self-worth.\u201d Done!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

This maybe works for a narrow subset of truly delusional people, but for most people it\u2019s not quite enough. Why not?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

well- before we can dig deeper on this we first have to lay out the spectrum of people who are dealing with some version of this issue. Some of them are \u201cdoing okay\u201d (or even good!) and remain feeling \u201cunworthy\u201d. Others are doing terribly, and their inaction etc is costing others<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Generally speaking you gotta be careful with who you\u2019re reassuring, because sometimes you\u2019re reassuring someone who shouldn\u2019t be reassured. But y\u2019know, that\u2019s the wider problem of social media in general and that\u2018s not going to be solved in a hurry\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Having been through quite a journey on this myself & having talked to probably 100s of people about this over the years, I think I\u2019ve come to think that the concept of \u201cself-worth\u201d is itself a little clunky and contaminated. It\u2019s almost like thinking about your health via weight<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you have a critically low (or high!) \u201cself-worth\u201d then that\u2019s probably an indicator that something is messed up, but in practice I think there are actually a whole bunch of variables that go into generating this strange, vague scorecard that people carry around in their heads<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It\u2019s worth trying to list them out, and troubleshoot them. Different people care about different things to different degrees, for different reasons<\/p>\n\n\n\n