{"id":14515,"date":"2021-07-30T17:15:36","date_gmt":"2021-07-30T09:15:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/?p=14515"},"modified":"2025-01-14T00:14:23","modified_gmt":"2025-01-13T16:14:23","slug":"failure","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/failure\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;i&#8217;m such a failure&#8221;"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p><em>This is a collection of posts and videos about failure and mistakes.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>learning to be ok with mistakes: It\u2019s the panicky flinch response to a mistake that really definitively cements a mistake as a mistake. otherwise it\u2019s just interesting dissonance you can work with and around<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"I\u2019m still learning to be ok with mistakes\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/BEjdTY2hbTs?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>mistakes contain buried insight. My personal growth really began to take off once I started to get more comfortable with making mistakes and learning from them<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-block-embed-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe loading=\"lazy\" title=\"mistakes contain buried insight\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/_BkVlQNTLO0?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>How do I stop being a failure in life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>First of all, drop that premise. It\u2019s unhelpful. It\u2019s like \u201cdon\u2019t think of an elephant\u201d. Focus instead on achieving little successes. 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