{"id":12545,"date":"2018-09-24T15:12:31","date_gmt":"2018-09-24T07:12:31","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/?p=12545"},"modified":"2024-12-12T21:29:42","modified_gmt":"2024-12-12T13:29:42","slug":"introspect","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/introspect\/","title":{"rendered":"\ud83e\udd14 do you know what you want?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>dec2024: I wrote this blogpost years before I wrote the book <a href=\"http:\/\/gum.co\/introspect\">Introspect<\/a>&#8230; vaguely feel like this post should become a summary of the book, or otherwise help to contextualize the book, slice-n-dice the book, make something good out of the book. Instinct is that I should make it people-shaped and catalogue conversations I&#8217;ve had that relate to Introspect. <em>Why were you late<\/em> and <em><a href=\"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/taskmaster\">taskmaster<\/a><\/em> come to mind. I should maybe also look up the QTs of <a href=\"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/2023\/06\/18\/one-foot-introspect\/\">1-foot-Introspect<\/a>&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>oh look, there&#8217;s a post titled <a href=\"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/iterating-introspect\/\">Iterating Introspect<\/a> where I talk about the process. And there&#8217;s <a href=\"https:\/\/visakanv.com\/1000\/0804-introspect-overview\/\">0804: Introspect overview<\/a>. All of this is a little fragmented at the moment but I&#8217;ll bring it all together eventually&#8230; maybe a google slide presentation, even&#8230;.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter wp-block-embed-twitter\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"500\" data-dnt=\"true\"><p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">I could probably write a book about this, but actually any smart person should be able to chase down the implications themselves<br><br>It\u2019s interesting that there isn\u2019t a single word that solves 4 the way there are words that solve 1, 2 and 3<br><br>There might be an opportunity here \ud83e\udd14\ud83e\udd14 <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/3WXCqlaBha\">pic.twitter.com\/3WXCqlaBha<\/a><\/p>&mdash; Visa is doing marketing consults (see pinned!) 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The more precise you are about what you want, the easier it becomes to get it. <em> <\/em>And this process is very illuminating&#8230;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For example, I have developed (relatively) a lot of clarity re: what I want out of Twitter. I want to be friends with diverse people who are thoughtful and kind. This clarifies what is worth my trouble and what isn\u2019t. Some \u201closing games\u201d are worth playing if it helps your goals<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Sometimes you might see me tweet something and wonder \u201cwhy is he tweeting that, he\u2019s inviting ridicule\u201d. I thought long and hard about it and decided it\u2019s generally worth crawling through 100 assholes to reach 1 good person. This gives me a feeling of lightness &amp; calm confidence<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>One way of framing \u201chow to get what you want\u201d is \u201cfind out what it costs, and pay it\u201d. The cost of freedom and happiness is the willingness to be misunderstood and to invite conflict. 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