{"id":12339,"date":"2018-05-28T23:36:43","date_gmt":"2018-05-28T15:36:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/?p=12339"},"modified":"2024-10-29T08:27:43","modified_gmt":"2024-10-29T08:27:43","slug":"confess","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/2018\/05\/28\/confess\/","title":{"rendered":"stop &#8220;confessing your feelings&#8221;, women are not confessional booths"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/confess\/write-confess-feelings\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-12340\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone wp-image-12340 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/write-confess-feelings-e1527520773347.png?resize=673%2C240\" alt=\"\" width=\"673\" height=\"240\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p><blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"550\" data-dnt=\"true\"><p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">&quot;Can I know you?&quot; &quot;Will you be my friend?&quot; &quot;I think I&#39;ve fallen in love with you&quot; are all selfish, short-sighted, things to say that force the other person to do all the work of figuring out the relationship you&#39;re trying to establish.<\/p>&mdash; Visakan Veerasamy (@visakanv) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/visakanv\/status\/935378408472580096?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">November 28, 2017<\/a><\/blockquote><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed is-type-rich is-provider-twitter wp-block-embed-twitter\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-width=\"550\" data-dnt=\"true\"><p lang=\"en\" dir=\"ltr\">fwiw my view on this is never say \u201cive always had a crush on you\u201d until you\u2019ve established mutual romantic interest. you can ask a friend out on a date in a playful low-stakes way and escalate from there, and if its not working, gently back off. dont go all-in pre-flop lol <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/htE4DXs8hh\">https:\/\/t.co\/htE4DXs8hh<\/a><\/p>&mdash; Visakan Veerasamy (@visakanv) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/visakanv\/status\/1850997717373501866?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">October 28, 2024<\/a><\/blockquote><script async src=\"https:\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script>\n<\/div><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>bunch of guys seem to get hung up on the &#8220;how do you ask a friend out on a date that isn&#8217;t just hanging out&#8221;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0 &quot;Can I know you?&quot; &quot;Will you be my friend?&quot; &quot;I think I&#39;ve fallen in love with you&quot; are all selfish, short-sighted, things to say that force the other person to do all the work of figuring out the relationship you&#39;re trying to establish. &mdash; Visakan Veerasamy (@visakanv) November 28,&hellip; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[581],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-12339","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-gender"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/s5gxNz-confess","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12339","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12339"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12339\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":14455,"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12339\/revisions\/14455"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12339"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12339"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12339"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}