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Originally posted on Hacker News<\/a>:<\/p>\n

Here’s my random, unsolicited opinion:<\/p>\n

I doubt porn is the cause. Porn might be a comorbidity (what I’d put my money on), or maybe a symptom (I doubt that, too), but the idea that it’s the cause is pretty odd to me.<\/p>\n

I think marriage is fundamentally an economic institution. People got married because it made economic sense. You needed a partner to rear children with, assuming you wanted children at all. There’s all the stuff about love and companionship and all that, but there’s no reason why we need to fixate on one particular arrangement. It was about partnerships of families.<\/p>\n

I think marriage made a lot of sense in small towns. It makes sense for large, political dynasties, for the old wealthy, etc. It doesn’t make so much sense for the young middle class today.<\/p>\n

This is my rough, unvarnished opinion. Would love to hear criticisms, refinements, etc.<\/p>\n

\u2013<\/p>\n

Comments on Love and Money conquer Caste<\/a><\/p>\n

The Wedding Toast I\u2019ll Never Give<\/a><\/p>\n

What romance really means after 10 years of marriage<\/a><\/p>\n

How we end up marrying the wrong people<\/a><\/p>\n

She Divorced Me Because I Left Dishes by the Sink<\/a><\/p>\n

The Secret to Love Is Just Kindness<\/a><\/p>\n

Lasting relationships are about kindness and generosity<\/a><\/p>\n

Esther Perel \u2013 The secret to desire in long-term relationships<\/a><\/p>\n

Esther Perel \u2013 What\u2019s wrong with infidelity?<\/a><\/p>\n

How the Obamas almost split up<\/a><\/p>\n

I Wasn\u2019t Treating My Husband Fairly, And It Wasn\u2019t Fair<\/a><\/p>\n

Quora answers from a divorce lawyer<\/a><\/p>\n

The Calculus of Divorce<\/a><\/p>\n

\/r\/askreddit \u2013 people don’t know what the fuck marriage is\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n

She divorced me because I left dishes by the sink<\/a><\/p>\n

\/why-couples-always-have-the-same-fight\/\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n

\/an-open-letter-to-shitty-husbands\/\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Originally posted on Hacker News: Here’s my random, unsolicited opinion: I doubt porn is the cause. Porn might be a comorbidity (what I’d put my money on), or maybe a symptom (I doubt that, too), but the idea that it’s the cause is pretty odd to me. I think marriage… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":"","jetpack_publicize_message":"","jetpack_publicize_feature_enabled":true,"jetpack_social_post_already_shared":true,"jetpack_social_options":{"image_generator_settings":{"template":"highway","default_image_id":0,"font":"","enabled":false},"version":2}},"categories":[828],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-11458","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-notes"],"jetpack_publicize_connections":[],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/s5gxNz-marriage","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11458","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=11458"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/11458\/revisions"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=11458"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=11458"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=11458"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}