{"id":10818,"date":"2016-09-22T23:52:34","date_gmt":"2016-09-22T15:52:34","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/?p=10818"},"modified":"2016-09-22T23:52:34","modified_gmt":"2016-09-22T15:52:34","slug":"shitty-choices","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/archives\/2016\/09\/22\/shitty-choices\/","title":{"rendered":"Parable of Shitty Choices"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">OVERALL TLDR\/SUMMARY:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Effective decision-making can be counter-intuitive. <\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You assume that a good decision is supposed to look and feel good, and a bad decision is supposed to look and feel bad. <\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Some decisions do follow that pattern, and those are the easy ones\u2013 the &#8216;freebies&#8217;. Everyone can make those decisions. <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The hard, counter-intuitive thing is when a good decision feels bad, or when a bad decision feels good. \u00a0That&#8217;s when you&#8217;ll have to steer against what &#8216;feels&#8217; right. (random aside: Interesting parallels to countersteering? <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Countersteering\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1<\/span><\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/jimchirm.wordpress.com\/counter-intuitive-steering\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2<\/span><\/a> <a href=\"http:\/\/wellyouneednot.blogspot.sg\/2006\/02\/counterintuitive.html\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3<\/span><\/a> <a href=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/watch?v=4PbmXxwKbmA\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">)<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Apart from luck, making the right decisions in these difficult situations is what separates the successes from the also-rans.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<table>\n<tbody>\n<tr>\n<td><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bad decision, feels good<\/span><\/td>\n<td><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Good decision, feels good<\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<tr>\n<td><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bad decision, feels bad<\/span><\/td>\n<td><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Good decision, feels bad<\/span><\/td>\n<\/tr>\n<\/tbody>\n<\/table>\n<p><a href=\"http:\/\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/parable-shitty-choice\/decision-2x2\/\" rel=\"attachment wp-att-10819\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-10819\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.visakanv.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2016\/09\/decision-2x2.png?resize=522%2C396\" alt=\"decision-2x2\" width=\"522\" height=\"396\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Posssible intro: talk about <\/span><\/i><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Law_of_triviality\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">bikeshedding<\/span><\/i><\/a><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> as a counter-example\u2013 choosing errenously to focus on a simple problem instead of digging into the difficult\/shitty problem.<\/span><\/i>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There&#8217;s a funny yet troubling story that says a lot about the limitations of human decision-making&#8230;&#8221; <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(probably even better: tell a story about a bad decision that felt good, and a good decision that felt bad)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Obvious preamble, can probably cut: <\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The quality of your life is, after accounting for starting conditions and other variables beyond your control (genetics, upbringing, environment), ultimately a function of the quality of your decisions. \u00a0So you always want to make the best decisions you can. To do that, you need to identify what the optimal decision is, and then you need to execute on it. That much is obvious. So why is it that we don&#8217;t see people making optimal decisions all the time?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>Sometimes identifying the optimal decision is easy,<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">because it jumps out at you as the obvious and right thing to do, <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">because there&#8217;s a wealth of information that points out that it&#8217;s the right thing to do, <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">because everyone who evaluates the problem has the same opinion as you. <\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<li style=\"list-style-type: none;\">\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Those almost aren&#8217;t worth discussing\u2013 they&#8217;re &#8220;solved problems&#8221; with obvious solutions. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Execute them quickly, pat yourself on the back and move on to the hard stuff. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(In fact, if you find yourself making a series of easy good decisions, it&#8217;s a strong sign that you might be too far inside your comfort zone and avoiding the real, important decisions that need to be made.) <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(It&#8217;s often tempting to spend an excessive amount of time and energy on the clean, tidy problems \u2013 so much so that there&#8217;s a name for the phenomeon: <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/en.wikipedia.org\/wiki\/Law_of_triviality\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bike-shedding.<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">)<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Startups that get caught up in bikeshedding can &#8220;do everything right&#8221; and yet run out of money and get shuttered.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Startups need to focus on staying alive, and staying alive is a hard, messy problem that involves confronting shitty decisions and systematically making the least shitty decision. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">That&#8217;s the optimal thing to do. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It&#8217;s optimal, but it&#8217;s emotionally draining, because even when you make the right decision, you&#8217;re going to look and feel like you failed. <\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">When you fire someone early rather than late, you&#8217;re going to feel the emotional cost of asking someone to leave. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Even though that might be the right decision! <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">You may have to ship something that&#8217;s imperfect, even though you <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">feel<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> that it&#8217;s right to wait until you get everything right.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ultimately, your success is going to be determined primarily by the decisions you make in the difficult quadrants \u2013 how you use your judgement, discipline, focus, discernment to make good decisions even when they feel bad, and to avoid bad decisions even when they feel good. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">This is obviously easier said than done, but acknowledging that this is how it is is the first step towards making it happen. <\/span>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">If you want to achieve significant success, you&#8217;re invariably going to have to make hard decisions, and you&#8217;re quite probably going to be tempted to go with what feels right. <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Be wary of your feelings(?). <\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\"><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">(Maybe some extra bit about how\u2026 it&#8217;s tempting to follow the herd and be wrong with the herd, because you at least don&#8217;t have to endure the discomfort of being deviant.)<\/span><\/i><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Possibly relevant quotes:<\/span><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">&#8220;Either way could be a big mistake. You&#8217;re not going to get any confirmation from anybody or anything. If you change and succeed, that might be great, but you might have succeeded even better at the last thing. If you change and fail, you&#8217;ll never know if you might&#8217;ve succeeded if you hadn&#8217;t changed.&#8221; \u2013 Marc Andreessen, to Tim Ferriss<\/span><\/i><\/p>\n<p><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">\u201cNo matter how good you are, you&#8217;re going to lose one-third of your games. No matter how bad you are you&#8217;re going to win one-third of your games. 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