curse of development

  • People of a certain level of “development” suffer from being surrounded by “less developed” people who make up the majority around them. Development is a problematic term, because it implies some sort of superiority- i don’t mean to do that.
  • Maybe we could call it the curse of complexity.
  • As you get more complex, you’re surrounded by people less complex, you have to adapt to the less complex. Let’s say you’re a realllly good writer in a really shitty team. That’s one example.Other things are like… when you’re a teacher working with kids who don’t feel obliged to listen to you, or when you’re thinking about spiritual needs, and your parents don’t seem to be familiar with the concept. Or you have a cat, and you try to reason with it.
  • The strange thing about developing complexity is: Once you see the world in a more nuanced light, it is VERY HARD to see things from a simpler perspective. When you were a teenager, your classmates’ opinion of you might have been the most pressing thing on your mind because you don’t have to pay the bills, etc
  • as an adult, you can remember vaguely what that was like
  • but memories are recreated, not recalled, so you realize on hindsight that things weren’t such a big deal compared to paying the bills now
  • BUT… a teenager worrying about his peer’s opinions is experiencing the same worry we might have if we realize we might not be able to pay the bills
  • experience is relative and subjective
  • where am I going with all of this…
  • when I was sitting in a yakun with sharan and evesdropping on a young chinese couple sitting next to us, talking about their bali trip, and about their latest handphone, etc
  • I realize that the difference between their wavelength and ours is significant
  • and the important thing to get here is that that doesn’t necessarily make us better or anything, just different
  • it’s slightly upsetting to realize that… the things that make you who you are, the things that you love and cherish about yourself, are also the things that make you different from the people you may wish to have aconnection with
  • the station that this train of thought pulls up at is this:
  • we are all human and we all share in collective humanity- love, loss, fear, pain, joy, etc
  • but the number of people that you can actually fully embrace as equals diminishes the more you develop
  • this doesn’t mean you don’t be kind and loving to everybody else- kindness and love and grace for all, always
  • but it makes me realize you really have to prioritize the ‘best’ people, the people vibrating at the same frequency
  • and as you develop you might find yourself changing frequency
  • and that’s okay, for one thing
  • but it also means a life of service if you don’t want to be lonely. you have to help others develop, and be okay with people who don’t want to develop
  • assuming, of course, that ‘development’ in the abstract sense is something that you’re interested in

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